Motherhood: Becoming Again and Again

There’s a silent shape-shifting that happens in motherhood.

It’s the moment your child grows—again—and so do you.

But this part rarely gets named: the continual becoming you’re called into as they evolve, as your family shifts, as you try to stretch between care, connection, and the parts of yourself that still whisper, “Don’t forget me.”

I’ve come to understand that motherhood isn’t a role I hold—it’s a relationship I’m in.

One that asks me to love deeply, guide gently, and not abandon myself in the process.

Whether you’re navigating motherhood inside a relationship or doing it alone—it’s a recalibration of your whole nervous system. And it’s okay to admit that it can feel like too much.

You’re Allowed to Say:

• “I feel overwhelmed.”

• “I need space.”

• “I want to feel like me again.”

Saying this doesn’t make you a bad mom—it makes you an honest one.

And honesty is what helps our children learn emotional regulation by watching us navigate our own.

Simple Ways to Create New Pathways (that won’t overwhelm you):

These aren’t rules.

They’re invitations—try what fits.

1. One Need a Day

Ask: What do I need right now?

It can be water, silence, or not being touched for 5 minutes.

2. One 3-Minute Reset

Try a soft hum, a breath with hand over heart, or a short walk.

You don’t have to “do it right.”

Just let it bring you back to yourself.

3. Weekly “Me Moment”

Pick one time a week (even 10 minutes) that’s just for you.

Call it a “non-negotiable pause.” Light a candle. Stretch. Be still.

Gentle Reminder

You are not behind.

You are not broken.

You are becoming—again and again.

There is no one right way to be a mother.

But being honest with yourself is a powerful start.

Even if your child doesn’t say it out loud:

Your presence—your full self—is what they feel the most. Until next time 💛